Self-pity is a stubborn and difficult stronghold to overcome. Because of its very nature, self-pity is rarely something that can be overcome by the sufferer alone. It is quicksand that pulls downward in anger, self-justification, and depression. Breaking free of its downward pull requires strength from the outside. Specifically, those who love the struggling brother or sister must make a compassionate and consistent effort. This essay provides the church, including chaplains, pastors, and counselors, with insights and practical tools to guide others out of the pit. Overcoming self-pity and into God's light, where He is generous with blessings of positive change and healing.